If you could have the body you’ve always wanted without losing weight would you still want to lose weight?
When people look at themselves in the mirror and they don’t like what they see, they don’t think to themselves, I want cut 200 - 500 calories a day from my diet, and exercise 5 days a week? They think my butt looks like cottage cheese, there are rolls of fat on my stomach.
One of the most important things I do as a trainer is to listen to my clients. They say things like; kick my butt I have no willpower, and I’m fat, I need to lose weight, I have no willpower. Would it surprise you to learn that even though people hire me for diet and exercise help they don’t want to diet and exercise. Diet and exercise is viewed as a path to weight loss — a necessary evil. Willpower is defined as the strong determination to do something difficult. So the question is, how do you do something as difficult as lose weight when you don’t really want to? The answer is you don’t. Where there is no will(power) there is no way.
The only way to lose weight is to exercise 3 - 5 days a week and to cut 200 - 500 calories a day from your diet.
You can’t blame a lack of willpower for your weight loss failures when you never really wanted to lose weight; when you never really wanted to diet and exercise. The truth is most people don’t want to diet and exercise. What they want is to look and feel good about themselves.
Looking good in our weight obsessed culture has become conflated with being sexy, cool, and confident verses feeling awkward, insecure, and undesirable. As much as you don’t want to hear this . . . losing weight is hard; it takes a tremendous amount of effort and dedication.
People who really want to lose weight lose it.
Nothing will sap your motivation quicker, or kill your willpower more thoroughly than dieting and exercising because you’re “fat.” Think about it. On the days you don’t feel like exercising, the negative thoughts running through your mind about your fat self aren’t going to motivate you to get off your butt and go to the gym, or stop you from eating the food that made you fat in the first place.
My Advice . . .
Forget about losing weight — that’s right, I said it. Of course weight loss is still your goal just don’t make it your focus. My weight loss success was rooted in the fun I was having changing the shape of my body, not from my willpower to eat rice cakes instead of cookies, or forcing myself to do exercises I hated. I did exercises I liked. As my workouts started to change the way my body looked and felt I was motivated to keep changing, to keep exercising, and to eat better. I thought to my self, why do all the work in the gym and go home and eat cookies? My progression to eating healthier was a natural one; no fad diets for me.
Willpower has its roll. It will get you to the gym on the days you really don’t want to go, but what will really motivate you is how good you look when you pass a mirror.
I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times. Dieting and exercising for weight loss is setting yourself up for failure.
Set yourself up for success
Diet and exercise because changing the shape of your body is a tremendous accomplishment. Diet and exercise because you need to feel good about something in your life. Diet and exercise because you’re insecure and need confidence. Diet and exercise to be happy. Diet and exercise because it’s a pure unadulterated commitment to you. Diet and exercise to be zen. The happy happenstance will be weight loss.
With that said . . . You’re going to need a few things to get motivated, boast your willpower, and get the body you’ve always wanted.
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You’ll need exercises that are appropriate to your fitness level and goals; exercises that make you feel good not awkward and clumsy, or are so hard you hate them and won’t do them. This is what personal trainers are for . . . call me.
You’ll need Specific Measurable Attainable Realistic Timely goals that will keep you motivated, and give you the will-power to significantly change the shape of your body. Call Me.
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Lastly and most importantly, you need to eat in a way that supports your efforts. 30% gym/exercise 70% diet. Call Me. I’ll teach you how to eat so you can have the body you’ve always wanted.
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Understand that your love and respect for your body can’t be separated from the love and respect you have for your inner being. The message “I am fat, and unattractive, are internalized. They are a contradiction to weight loss and to your well-being. They are impediments to your fitness goals. No matter what exercise/diet program you engage in you will not have long term success if you internalize these types of thoughts. With that in mind I pledge to:
Stop berating my body and instead celebrate it. Acknowledge that it gives me the ability to experience life, I pledge to acknowledge that I am not my body. My body is vessels that transports my being through life. I pledge to change the inner monologue in my head, that says my body is unattractive the way it is right now. I pledge to care for my body giving it what it needs to function well, i.e: nutritious foods, and enough water to stay hydrated, regular exercise, flexibility training and sleep. I pledge that when I am tired i will rest. I pledge to use exercise as a way to improve my overall health versus using it as a weapon against my body. I pledge to exercise smart vs. hard. I pledge to understand that my weight is not good or bad. It is just a number. I pledge to recognize my body’s strengths, and stop dwelling on it’s perceived weakness. I pledge to not rely on others to define my worth. I pledge to gently but firmly stand up for myself when someone does or says something unkind to me. I pledge to no longer put off the things that I wish to experience because I am waiting to do them when I’ve lost weigh. I pledge to understand that my body, like my personality, is unique, and that it is wonderful, and that I am unique and wonderful the way I am right now!